Again about life and math. Time... Your teenage years, when 3 years seems like a hell of a long time and a part of your life, suddenly in your 40s become something intangible, flowing through your fingers. Like nature, time has an incredible power that everyone would dream of possessing. But each of us, obviously, has no less happiness - to make decisions for ourselves!
A plus is something that consists of two minuses. And yes it is quite a wonderful practice to accept these or those things, events, facts, actions, decisions “without evaluation”. And that's it! It is impossible to live without evaluating this or that. Polemics is not useful here, because this or that evaluation of this or that arises in your head at the level of instinct. “Yes, I like it” or “No, oh my God, it's monstrous” - involuntarily in your head.
The epiphany of the importance of evaluation made me realize that by integrating in one or another traits of characters, appearance, behavior and experience, I form for myself a more and more concrete model of the ideal. The ideal, which does not exist and my inquisitive brain has to put up with it, finds another way - a possibility, or rather a possible percentage of success and correlation of efforts (costs) to achieve a result close to the ideal, instead of the ready and formed by time, society, family and experience.
The very appreciation of the beautiful in what I see and capture in photography is in no way dependent on me. It is there regardless of my mood, upbringing, education and background. At the same time, the acceptance of this non-perfect beauty occurs on some unconditional level... I do not dare to accept everyday and human “beauties”, for some reason always criticizing myself in my inner register.
Evaluating and choosing what is best for yourself is natural! It's not something “right”, “proper” or “normal”... but it's absolutely certain that it's wise to choose the least compromising solution in favor of the closest to the ideal picture of your world of things. Except that you remember the flip side of the coin... and whether it's really worth it, perhaps time will tell. And this is a separate topic, because it may be too late to “plant the tree” again, as you may not have time to see its fruits.