Time gives us tens of hundreds and hundreds of thousands of opportunities. We choose, we make mistakes. We make and make mistakes. We don't choose and we don't make, missing the chance to become stronger. And strength is in knowledge!
Every new lesson doesn't come without pain. Whether physical or emotional, it brings pain, leaving a bruise on your body or soul. And there's probably rehab for both, but aren't you your own doctor?
Very soon we forget the word we once gave ourselves. Once we shift responsibility to the changed life - it doesn't even matter which way it goes. Then on circumstances, people on whom we depend and, finally, on our supposedly changed selves. Except that the truth of such behavior is a lie! To ourselves!
The truth is in the principles you have accepted or not fully accepted. You can agree. You can cook clearly. You can be sober. But all of this is nothing until you accept as axiomatic the very principle that you, like a nightingale, colorfully described.