Rules, habits, traditions, rules, routines, regulations, norms and so on... There are so many formats and designations in us. Hundreds of touch points for something, for something, for something, for something. Circumstances and facts are taken for granted in the form of rewards, punishments. Even as a matter of course - normal.
Deprivation can break, teach, motivate or otherwise have an impact. Rather only the foolish will not draw conclusions...now not about actions even, which should be after realization and conclusions. "What if then"...why do we need that? Why today do you bring up things you can't get back? Have you become a lot more experienced, wiser and smarter today by gaining skills and knowledge? I doubt it...
It's a skillful life lesson when, like in poker, you have a 3 and a 7 of mixed hands, and on the river you suddenly get two sevens and a three with a ten and a four. You don't know what to do with what you've got. "It's just going to come out of the blue"... Except that when you opened, your opponent had the unfortunate 7 and 10... still in different suits.
You'll never know the winning move until life takes its next step! Showdown! And then you realize that you could have called instead of going all-in. Now there are new cards in hand.... try it first, try it differently. "If only then" taught you the options, gave you a choice in the decision you made for yourself. Now you know...
Your "then" will be repeated more than once and most likely with a plus in the shade if you've come out decently in past times. Be able to see the point! And "Kare" in the next hand you are assured! Even if it's made of threes or sevens.