How important it is to know, understand and feel yourself. It's not just about desires, motives, but also about the body. To be able to judge and evaluate yourself... yourself without doubts, and for sure, is only possible by studying yourself. Studying more and more new "I can" in yourself, you acquire an invaluable knowledge base that you can convey to another in verbal form or even try this knowledge on someone... After all, people have a lot in common.
Only after studying yourself should you move on to studying the person next to you, excluding any delays due to flashbacks.
After all, we can get anything from a loved one, while remaining unhappy. I will think about this in another post, but now I have moved on to training with a critical emphasis on technique... after the stage with an emphasis on weight.