We don't notice. The amazing fact remains that we are blind to each other. Dumb, deaf, blind and cruel. Yet childishly naive, trusting and in love. There are no rules, no laws, no order in this jumble of qualities. Even time is distorted. After 17 years, even 20, do you have determination? Or do you run out of patience? Was it worth it?
And the point is on the surface, obvious, though painful - the point is you! Until you learn how to solve problems, find answers and smooth out quarrels through yourself, please don't take the fateful step. As long as there are two of you, you have the power to help each other come to the line in one moment, in one mood, in one realization and single responsibility - on yourself.
Don't play "should (a)" when there is a flipping of stones from one bowl to another. Don't think about the other person's responsibility... be responsible for your own. You will definitely get help, be set free and do better than yourself. You don't need words, hints, and even less hysterics to find out about relationships.
Man manifests pretty soon, and we are the only ones responsible for our choices. Whatever it is, it is your choice! Your desire at a particular moment in time. And it's fine when there was no specific reasoning behind it. Otherwise it's the market!
In the last month I have heard an unimaginable number of sets of things said to me that I haven't heard in years.... ever! It's a great motivator to work more on myself. Talking, hearing, doing, noticing and helping.....
Each of us has a different value for the same things. Each of us has a different value for the same things and behaviors. Talk about your values, respect the other person's values. It's a fancy cheat sheet you can use a few times a year - for birthdays and holidays. ? Add + respect to the list.
After that, each of your years will embed you into each other, not to be a half of the other, to become one now once and for all. Now, taking hands, make together at the same time your fateful step..... forward!