Extra people. My own people.

QUESTION: Superfluous people. Own people.

When I heard such a formulation once a few months ago, I was astonished. Of course, the © “perception issue” to which I so often refer has its place. The human being is in itself, I believe, a valuable unit. As a whole and as a whole. His peculiarities, habits, character, morals, world view, behavior and values are his alone. Not only a matter of perception, but, in a particular case, a matter of wording plays a role. A person is a valuable resource for an employer. It is really a certain “spare part” in the chain of the whole business conveyor belt.

However, I have a clear division between work, personal and leisure. A third TV in one room is unnecessary, in my opinion. An extra person - if only in the elevator, when the latter signals an overload. There are no extra people.

“I'm lucky to have good people:
Wherever luck may sometimes throw you,
There was at least one of them on the road
That soul which is brighter than others.”.

A person is tested, a person is manifested - everything in sorrow and in joy. Superfluous, not one's own - when one is not advantageous either from the point of view of finances or from the point of view of comfort. When a point of view appears! And here I tend to separate people and things. Realme - “not mine”, since it costs less than what I deserve. A Bershka skirt is “not mine” because it doesn't fit right. A person is by definition “his own” and certainly not “yours”, so all people are “not ours” for us.

Anyone is an extension of YOUR perceptual boundaries, it's YOUR new neural connections.

“The closer you get, the more unwanted you are.
The more tender, the more unarmed.
Waiting for someone over a warm dinner.
You're a blessing

But native means unremarkable
Convenient, but not desirable
Silent and independent
It's not stressful.”.

Mariya Vyacheslavovna Gusaurova

Another conversation about “your man” when favorable! Money at a snap, dinner on time, gifts on timing, and “brain blowing” in the off state. Your man is comfortable, not a hassle. Yours is a wingman, there's when and how. Behind the mask of “his” we hide HIS comfort, consumption and benefits.

For me, “his (her) own” = “quite”, without anchors to circumstances, time in the past, future plans and actions/inactions. All these are the conventions that are formed, developed in qualitative and quantitative level after the “he (she) is absolutely mine” countdown. And it's not even about him/her, it's about you and your readiness to accept him/her at all! This is the point of no return from which, whatever happens, you will start your first step together. Change is ahead in both of you for the two of you. That's the way it is and no other way!

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