Comfort in communication on the 120%

Why this figure, I would like to start with this. Today, no... for a long time 100% is too few and it is not indicative of success or real professionalism. Rather, it is still the norm and its real, if judged on the Soviet five-point scale, grade is a solid three. It is 120% that is the value and the performance indicator that shows the real picture of success. No, no, not even 125% and especially not 150%... these figures already tell a different story. A failure of management who, having set a goal and/or a plan, got such a figure as an indicator of fulfillment, or rather, over-fulfillment of the plan. Trouble... it shows that the job was easy to achieve 100% and, having been given the plan, easily exceeded it.

And now to the topic. Here's what I was thinking... I always stick to my rule - sincerity and absolute comfort in communication. So I ask you to tell me in direct text what makes a person uncomfortable, tense, distracted or... anything that deviates their behavior and actions from the absolute norm. Such a position is certainly welcomed by many as natively correct. And... some are even willing to respond in kind, asking me in turn to talk about anything that embarrasses me. But! My principles and rules have no exceptions, so are unlikely to work for anyone else. For example: if I say that a person's constant monologues about his work make me feel a little heavy, then from now on the interlocutor is very likely to start thinking about how long and how much he already talks about his work. He will start to keep quiet, deliberately and plannedly change the topic of conversation, and what is even worse - to apologize. No! No, that's not how my principle works. I say that the monologue on the topic of work does not fascinate me and the interlocutor hears my words, I agree... pause. About 5-7 seconds pass and my interlocutor continues the narrative. That's how it works! It's weird, right? But that's the point, that 120% of the interlocutor's comfort of communication is in the topic of work and monologue about it.

It seems to me that any of the participants of the dialog is able to find one or another topic for communication, which would fascinate both of them. In any case, "discomfort" should not be hushed up. More often than not, it has serious consequences in people's relationships.

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