Human Evolution: An Insider's View

Again about life and people. Is it possible and does a person change? On the one hand, they definitely change - they grow up, get smarter, or at least gain experience. All this and not only this is reflected in manners and behavior. On the other hand, the character with which a person was born remains unchanged... if we take it to the notion of "essence of a person", a particular person. Much, if not all, comes from the family and the first years of his life a person, like a sponge, absorbs everything from his parents or those with whom he is near. During these years he has no authority... and then parents reap HIS behavior and manners in the child.

What can change a person, breaking the "core" of his character, nature and essence, received in childhood? Maybe it is not real at all? In fact, everything depends on a particular person, because the personality is formed in the same childhood, as well as the strength of character. Who initially was weak and chose to suffer and offenses, he obviously changes under the influence of anything. He revises his views, changes his decisions and words just because the masses tell him otherwise. If a person is firm and principled, then only an event - a personal experience - can contribute to the revision of views. Life is not mathematics, so all its theories are tested by experience and only by personal experience.

Betrayals, heartbreaks, physical pain and suffering are the kind of experiences that push a person to reevaluate values and change their views.

In answer to the question posed in the storis on the topic of the posts, I can tell you what an event in my life taught me and what conclusion I drew from it. Life can't be rushed, even while in line at the pharmacy (seemingly, but relevant for summer 2020). Putting up with negativity, tolerating, buckling the world and waiting for mana from heaven is a waste of life for nothing. Life is an infinite spectrum of shades of possibilities. Choose yours! And if it has faded and become gray, turning to black - change, try, study, bite, breathe, listen, touch... different! You can only give your life without a trace to your children!

I am not angry at an unjust world and cruel people. Not resentful or filled with vengeance, aggression. On the contrary! To some extent, I look at people's behavior differently... I have become as tolerant as possible to people's actions, but what I have lost is one thing - pity. I never pity anyone. Everything that happens to a person is a consequence of their choices in the past. With one firm caveat.... children. Only little kids should not have to suffer for the idiocy of their parents.

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