Benchmark Relationships and Happiness

We have indisputable standards of things, events, people, relationships and even feelings. For ourselves... and yet the standard of attitude does not have to be unreal... Not at all! After all, the other person can have their own benchmark... as they most likely do. The ideal state of affairs is when both have met the reference attitude not only to themselves, but also can and want to give their reference attitude to the other. These two vectors are the "unknowns" in the formula of happiness... of a happy relationship.

Yeah, I have a confession to make
What happens in our lives is this:
Losing touch, marriages appear
The disruption and days of silence are increasing.....
I've said it more than once, but I'm sorry.

I kept quiet about a lot of things, acted like a fool.
Now it's time to end the mess!
Anger and resentment, I won't write any more
I have something to say and I have to say it:

I appreciate you for your ability to understand,
You know how to love and even forgive.
Appreciate your willingness to always help
Appreciate the words I once had time to say.
Appreciate your willingness to be with me always.
Just for being you, I appreciate you.

© Ilya Anisimov

There is no ideal (and it breaks me every time), so changing and developing relationships, feelings and interest in each other is necessary throughout life. But! Now I know that benchmark of self-love to which I have to compare any other feelings. And again... there are two vectors in that very formula and it can't be otherwise.

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