People are like # rainworms wriggling into old age. Why? In the case of the worm it is understandable, but why a person should seem, adjust and accept, is not understandable at all. You'll wake up tomorrow with yourself. You need your own and for yourself. I can't call it a core or in the usual sense a nucleus, like something round in the form of a ball. For myself, I imagine this core in the form of a cube for some reason.
The essence of all life is in this very cube. Everything else is a shell with all kinds of colors. There are no pros or cons. There is only your truth before yourself! If you have to persuade yourself, justify yourself or convince yourself to accept the public point of view contrary to your beliefs and desires, then ... the day is near when you will shed tears.
I couldn't hold in my head the invasion part of the thought I wanted to talk about and write it down, alas... So chopped end of post again.