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Ideality and reality

27.03.2023

Perfect. Often in situations we look at people as if they were naive and stupid children, when they are stubbornly convinced of something of their own and persistently continue to talk about the "truth" with a sense of absolute truthfulness, as if quoting an axiom known to all. Ignorance! The fact is that experience and knowledge do not always come only from life practices. You can learn other things from authors, doctors and scientists.

In my opinion, striving for the ideal, as well as thirst for the best, is the absolute norm for any ambitious person. But there are too many people and characters, and "ideality" is very subjective, or even imaginary and exists only in scraps of thoughts - dreams of the owner.

Reading through the descriptions of personality types in relationships, came to a conclusion by defining:
(-3 ) OCSO - he, (+3 ) OCSO - she. Amazing fact, but in relationship math, it's that perfect zero! The bottom line is really, everything should work out, add up, fit together and be whole. It's perfect!

© "On a conscious level, the co-dependent and the narcissist perceive each other as soul mates. At the same time, narcissists unconsciously prefer co-dependent partners because they will not remove them from the pedestal of supposed importance and perfection.

The co-dependent's sincere tendency to be caring, sensitive, empathic, and patient is perfectly matched by the narcissist's constant need for understanding and admiration."

It turns out a perfect mathematical zero relationship is pretty darned less than perfect! Only the result of +1 or -1, when the relationship can be considered absolutely healthy, will be beautiful, strong, reliable and happy.

© "There is no such thing as perfect, for there is always better. But what you really need is YOURS, which synergizes both the best and the ideal.

And it's really all in the people themselves! The co-dependent person should work on himself to correct (-3) OCSO (OCSO) and be the one with whom the sum will be close to zero... exactly close - the same +1/-1. A healthy relationship exists where both "summations" are healthy. And it is wonderful when both of them manage to realize the necessity of working on the relationship, on themselves in the relationship (which is very important)!

P.P.S. A caveat to the conclusion of the first paragraph:

Sometimes it's healthier not to know what's been done before you so you don't get off the beaten path that leads to a dead end.

A.M. Budker

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  • Ilya Anisimov

    P.S. "I think it is absolutely right to be a plus to the girl specifically. The note (+1) of narcissism is already at birth in her - a beautiful flower that you can't help but love."

    12:51 27.03.2023 Reply
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