Loneliness criteria

Dozens of ways to communicate and hundreds of people passing side by side with you, today leave you alone. Why? Is fate so cruel and unfair?

Indeed, “it was better before” – one could say that this phraseological unit has firmly entered our lives and is applicable, perhaps, to everything... just change the ending – it was more interesting, more beautiful, more reliable, and so on.

Life in recent years has become too public and this no longer concerns only celebrities, stars, politicians or actors. Many of us live “on display”, posting certain photos on social networks that clearly demonstrate the difference between the owners and others. Yes, this may be a very dry moment and can be very far-fetched, but... Your posing in a photo is a sign of a desire to stand out, as well as neatly folded crab claws on a plate for your dinner with a glass of sparkling wine from Champagne.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be better and different, and this desire is absolutely normal, just like breathing intensely after a run. More often than not, “to be” is disguised as “to seem.” And the desire to be different later turns into a desire for admiration, when you are elevated above yourself. And this, alas, is a pernicious path... although it is inherent in man by nature. We all remember the upper plate of Maslow's pyramid.

And here you are 30, and you are alone... already 40 and 50, when you just want to say that everything is behind you, but! Neither at first glance, nor upon closer examination, the reasons for loneliness are revealed. A successful career, a slim figure and creative abilities. You even cook wonderful things and are the life of the party... what's the matter?

Most often, “loneliness” is a consequence of past relationships that ended. And yes, I insist on quotation marks. And now, having gained, as it seems to you, invaluable experience of past years, you find yourself on the battlefield for the best, seeing yourself not as a rival, but, of course, as a prize. Only those who are closely approaching you, as if you were the desired prize, turn out to be unworthy. Of what? Whom? Why? Were there any requirements, conditions, rules, or was the casting moment missed? Sorry, but this looks like an attempt to sell yourself at a higher price. And here the key word is “sell”. The concepts of “worthiness” or “unworthiness” are formulated (although I also doubt this, that on 100%) only in your head and are probably understandable only to you, which is also not certain. Being worthy of you according to a number of criteria does not yet mean success in creating a couple. Here, for sure, something will not stick together for him and there will be a desynchronization. A smart, handsome, rich, healthy male is a small part of the requested characteristics. And yes, comparing yourself to him, most likely you also successfully answer with all of this. Only his “merits” are in something else... or maybe in one thing, which is easy to express in one word. And you will not do anything to be with him, because the prize is you. Having heard a refusal, with your head held high, you will give chances to others. “Worthy” probably exists on this Earth and your “loneliness” is not eternal, because there are billions of people around. Your “worthy” may be busy or have different views on life, relationships and everyday life. What to do then? I would not measure, “worthy” cannot be compared with anything, cannot be measured, weighed or evaluated. That one can have only one characteristic - mine! Absolutely any person can be him, even without merits.

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