Man to man... It turns out that there are many strings, although at the end the essence is the same. Circumstances or man? Conditions or man? Comfort or man? Anything or man.... only in one of hundreds of thousands of cases man is more important.
Everyone has different lives, as well as events in them, experiences, pain, love, betrayals, losses and acquisitions.... their own sample of experience. That's why someone already at 25 understands about the value of a "person", clearly separating the rest into the status of material and profitable. Someone at 42 assesses the quality of a person by conventions and matter... I would like to say: "alas, it is too late to turn around"... but no! Everyone is responsible for himself and his "pattern of experience". Being subjective is very fraught for the life you could have your man!