Sincere feedback: the key to relationships

Every day we counsel dozens of mistakes while remaining tolerant of... each other and the resulting relationships formed. Are these mistakes, or are they stages in the formation, development, and perhaps inevitable fading of your communications?

And here you are again silent about your dissatisfaction in bed with him, looking into his eyes with your puppy dog look. He is again silent about his dissatisfaction with your +2 pounds. Smoothing out the "rough edges" develops a kind of inertia in the relationship where basic things are overlooked. And yes, he really doesn't see the difference in your hair color, and you couldn't even think about his club making the playoffs.

Forgetting about the downside, we often talk about the downside, about what we have not received and what we have not said. We see, or rather remember only the negative... He doesn't want to, he doesn't do, he doesn't speak and doesn't show initiative. And yes, we easily express such claims out loud, even in direct text. When the time is right, everything you can remember from the last few years goes into action. Even his bad jokes are in your arsenal... you rascal!

Once again, it may seem that I am attacking the weak half of humanity, but no... I just don't encounter such a volume of complaints from the strong... to the weak. Girls are wonderful manipulators, skillfully mastering all the tools given to them by nature to get what they want. Each has her own trump card, and even those who are at the zero stage of mastering the "art" natively use the tool of threat, putting them before a choice.

And yet about the flip side. Now just as simply and without reason tell him about the pleasant things that come from him. The sleepy face that appears next to you early in the morning, as you wake up for work? Or his warm embrace in the evening in front of the TV? Awesome coffee that he manages to brew in a Turk for you? A chair greased from squeaks, a purchased network filter or a parking lot for your car near the house cleared of snow? This can go on and on... yes, endlessly, if you love him! These little things and pleasant things that you get from him... there are definitely more of them than reproaches and whims.

He's just there, which already makes you feel good... tell him about it! And you know, this, in my opinion, is the simplest and most honest tool for getting feedback. No guy can ignore such "donations" in his direction for an infinitely long time and will probably respond with his own, even if naive, but this is only at the beginning... And, as many know, the main thing is to start! 😊😉

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